Although BDSM has existed for a longtime, there are still people who do not appreciate its essence. Whether you are heterosexual or gay the nature of BDSM introduces sexual dynamics that make sexual relationships even more enjoyable than romance novels would have you think. It is not just the element of kink and that spills pleasure, but the power exchange that goes on in BDSM relationships.

The elements of BDSM

The first element of BDSM is S & M which denotes sadism and masochism. S & M is the most playful element of BDSM that both partners experiment by playing the character of masochistic or sadistic persona. This brings about power exchange through trust and communication between partners with mutual consent on all that goes between them to redefine their intimacy and physical closeness as well. It is like acting a movie in your life and letting your relationship follow the script that you and your partner wrote.
The second element is bondage and discipline. Bondage and discipline is equally an interesting element of BDSM relationships, which brings role play into the bedroom. For partners using the element of bondage in their relationship, there are set rules to be followed. Typically couples set boundaries of what they are going to get into and what extremes they will go into in exploring their sexuality in both the light and dark side of its nature. For most couples bondage is a thrill and it is played out like a game with a safe word to signal the other partner that you have come to the limit of your boundaries for them to stop. The use of a safe word during sex ensures that one partner does not overwhelm the other with situations they are not prepared for or ready to take.

Toys and Tricks

Bondage is not really for the soft-hearted, but a matter of testing your boundaries. The partners surrender to their will and sense of adventure to test their personal boundaries. It is a two team play of pushing limits in alternating shifts. There are a lot of moves to be crossed and the use of toys is common place. In fact, the play out of bondage comes out best with the use of ball gags to limit communication to safe words and gestures. There are also clothes pins to hold clothes unto specific body parts to arouse erotic sensations and intensify the stimulation from role play leading to an intense orgasm.